Some people find slander and evil in words that had no desire to hurt or harm. They read hidden meaning into them that were never intended to be there by the person who spoke them. It is a lot easier to say the wrong thing than it is to write it. We usually put a little thought into what we say, although I have known people who speak first and think later and these same people tend to write without thinking, also. I am sometimes guilty of that and am sure all of you have been, also.
I have a strange sense of humor and my mind always seems to come up with quick come-backs to something said. Most of the time, I bite my tongue, but that does not always work. Thank goodness most of my "come backs" are humorous. If you can get your antagonist to start laughing, you win and you may also make a new friend. To me, humor is the best medicine for anything from sickness to wars to surviving among others. Much better than fighting, for sure. So, make fun of me because I am a lover instead of a fighter (grin). Actually, I have both in me, but have to be pushed some before the fighter comes out. Now you all have a great day and don't push me, you hear???